Violence against women is also known as gender - based violence or sexual violence.
This article is about young woman (28) who has survived physical,emotional and sexual violence by her (now) ex husband.
" He would have locked me up in the house and would have gone to the bar drinking until the early morning, then is when the real nightmare would begin - the moment when he would return home.
I remember him putting his hands around my neck and yelling at me. I can still smell his bad breath and i can still see the floor filled with blood. This has already happened so many times before, but this time something was different. I knew I have to fight for myself.
Suddenly I saw the knife on the kitchen counter and I had the chance to push him away from me with all of my power. He fell down and I grabbed the knife with my right hand,started walking towards him and stabbed him with the knife in his heart and felt no regret.Honestly, I felt relief but I was too weak to call the police,so I just laid down on the kitchen floor next to him till the neighbor found us. "
This is how Ana (28) describes the night when everything had changed. Domestic violence happens everywhere around you in the whole wide world.
Maybe it is your neighbor,maybe it is your own sister,maybe it is even your daughter but you simply can not know. And not because you don't care or do not want to know,simply because victims of violence are ashamed and they don't talk about that subject and usually they are protecting the abuser. Speak up!!!
First thing you need to know about an abuser is that he looks like a normal person, often very sweet and kind. Nothing unusual and to be suspected. That person feels that she has the right to control another person's life,to control her speech,her style,her hair,her thoughts,every single part of her personality.And it is most common that they blame everyone and everything but themselves for the abuse.Victims often give late/or no signs that something is wrong when they are in a abusive relationship,just because the victim itself is in a deniable state of mind and believes that the assault will never happen again.
They become depressive , quiet, they start feeling anxious and scared. They start avoiding friends and family,going out in public,and hiding their body behind inappropriate clothes.
These are few of the signs you can recognize in an abused person if you just try to look behind the mask.
Violence can negatively effect on the victim's physical,mental,sexual or reproductive health. All over the world there are support centers that take care about healing these women after such an abuse.
Ana is trying to move on with her life,she is now happily married and expecting a baby,but she will never forget what happened that night and the nightmares are still here. She asked for a help from professionals and hoping for a better results.
All you beautiful women out there,never let anyone destroy you in any way.
There will be always someone that will try to help you and wishes you well,takes care of you and loves you.
It is not normal to live in that surrounding,get up and stand up for yourself,there always will be sun after the rain.
Don't be afraid you deserve to live happy,fulfilled life,the sun is rising for a beginning of a new day.
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